''The elf-queene, with hir joly compaignie,
Daunced ful ofte in many a grene mede.”
Geoffrey Chaucer "The Wife of Bath’s Tale"
A la Tolle's secret is "I don't mind what happens" creates the space for healing. Those who have worked with this are aware nonresistance detaches from the issue allowing it to dissolve/disappear (what we resist persists).